Dear Younger Me: Resolutions Aren't Just for New Year's
Hey there, twenty-something me. I see you—full of hope, a little naïve, and totally ready to take on the world. I see you sitting in that room with his friends, trying to make conversation. You were just being you, open-hearted and curious, asking about New Year’s resolutions. Then came the response, delivered with a smile that didn’t quite reach her eyes: “Honey, I’m too old for New Year’s resolutions; that’s for kids.”
It stung, didn’t it? That subtle condescension, like you were silly for even asking. I’ll admit, I’ve replayed that moment in my mind more than once. Now, 10 years later, I finally understand what she was trying to say. But let’s be real: she could’ve said it with a lot more grace.
Because here’s the thing: Resolutions aren’t just for kids, and they aren’t just for January 1st. Every single day is a chance for a fresh start, and that’s where the magic truly lies. So, to my younger self—and to anyone else who needs to hear it—here are 10 things I’ve learned about goals, fresh starts, and making life a little brighter. Consider these lessons I figured out so you don’t have to.
1) Set Small Goals That Build the Big Picture
Back then, you had this habit of dreaming big—which is amazing. But those dreams felt overwhelming, didn’t they? Like standing at the base of a mountain with no idea how to climb it. Here’s the trick: break those dreams into small, achievable goals. Each step forward builds momentum and confidence, and before you know it, you’re halfway up the mountain.
2) Leave Room for Plans to Change
You’re not the same person you were last year, and that’s a good thing. Your goals will evolve as you grow, and sometimes, what felt so important yesterday won’t fit anymore. That’s not failure—it’s life. Be open to the detours; they often lead to opportunities you didn’t even know you wanted.
3) Balance Wants and Needs
Remember those years when you were so focused on surviving that you forgot to enjoy life? Meeting your needs is essential, but don’t forget your wants. A little joy goes a long way. Treat yourself to that coffee, that night out, or that silly thing you’ve been eyeing on Etsy. You’re allowed to have fun.
4) Surround Yourself with Good People
There were moments when you felt drained by people who didn’t see the best in you. Stop doing that. Spend time with the ones who lift you up, who challenge you to grow, and who make you laugh until your cheeks hurt. Life’s too short for anything less.
5) Money Isn’t Everything, But It Helps
Oh, the financial stress of your twenties. You lived paycheck to paycheck, sometimes wondering how you’d make it work. Here’s the truth: money doesn’t buy happiness, but it can provide security and freedom. Make a plan for your finances, whether it’s saving for a trip, a car, or just a rainy day fund. Having direction makes a world of difference.
6) Try New Things—Often
You used to think every new experience had to be epic. But honestly? Some of the best memories come from small, simple things. Try a new recipe, visit a quirky shop, or say yes to an impromptu adventure. It doesn’t have to change your life—it just has to make you smile.
7) Make Time for Loved Ones
I know you thought you had all the time in the world to call your mom or grab coffee with your best friend. You don’t. Life is unpredictable, and the moments you share with loved ones are priceless. Don’t let them slip away.
8) Health is Wealth
It’s a cliché for a reason. You’ve only got one body, so take care of it. Go for a walk, drink some water, or get a good night’s sleep. Even small steps make a big difference.
9) Embrace Nothing Days
You used to feel guilty for resting, didn’t you? Like you had to earn the right to do nothing. Let that go. Rest is productive. Take the time to recharge—your future self will thank you.
10) Don’t Wait for January 1st
Here’s the kicker: you don ’t need the calendar to tell you when to start. If you know what you want, begin now. Today, tomorrow morning, or whenever you feel ready. Stop waiting for the “perfect” time. It doesn’t exist.
A Fresh Start, Every Day
So here’s to you, younger me—and to anyone else who needs to hear this. A new year is a fresh start, yes. But so is a new day. Every time you wake up, you get another chance to figure it out. You don’t have to wait, and you don’t have to do it perfectly. You just have to start.
With love and a little extra wisdom,
Jess Pye
One Happy Lime
